If you are a trans youth, or you are someone seeking guidance on how to help and/or support someone who is trans youth, these are just a few of the many resources that are available to you. More resources and information will be added as it is discovered and researched.
If you know of other valuable resources that should have a place here on this page, please feel free to share them with us.
IF YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS CONSIDERING SELF HARM, PLEASE REACH OUT TO THE TRANS LIFELINE AT 877.565.8860 OR THE TREVOR PROJECT LIFELINE AT 866.488.7386.
Do not tell your child that they are "going through a phase." Let them know you are listening to them and that you want to understand how they are feeling.
Self-confidence and acceptance is critical for trans youth. Not having parental support is devastating and is one of the leading causes of depression, anxiety, homelessness, and self-harm.
Their identity is about them. Do not use disapproval to manipulate them into being who you think they should be. They will be who they will be with or without your acceptance.
Refusing to allow them to explore and figure things out can cause or exacerbate issues with mental and emotional well-being. It can also cause damage to your relationship with them.
Having the right tools and resources to help them learn how to navigate their life is crucial to their happiness and well-being on their journey toward living as their authentic self.
Ask them how they are doing. Find out what they need from you and do your best to provide it. Let them know that you are there for them. Acknowledge your desire for their happiness.
Defend them against transphobia at home among family, at school, in Church, among friends, and in any other spaces that you or they frequent.
Buy clothes and other items that help them to feel more at home in their body and that are more appropriate for their authentic gender identity.
Ask them if they would like for you to remove photos of them prior to their transition. Allow them to decorate and personalize their room and individual spaces to their comfort level.
Call them by their chosen name. Ask them what pronouns they want you to use... and use them. Instruct friends and family to do the same. Consistency is key. Distance them and yourself from those who do not cooperate.
Do your homework. Seek out resources from the Internet and local or online support groups that will help you to be a better ally for your child. Never stop learning!
With hundreds of GSE Centers across the country, finding resources and support groups should be relatively easy. You can Google search, or search CenterLink for GSE centers near you.
Being unable to live authentic can be one of the most difficult aspects of being trans, non-binary, or any other non-conforming gender identity. It is especially difficult when you live in a transphobic or non-supportive environment. You feel frustrated, angry, and scared, which can lead to anxiety, depression, and depending on the toxicity of the situation, internalized transphobia. And let's not forget about the resentment that you feel toward those who insist on stopping you from being yourself.
It is a lot to absorb, and it is a lot to carry around on a daily basis. So, it's natural to want to come out as who you feel you truly are in order to remove all of that weight from your shoulders. And it's important to have someone with whom you can talk. But there is one thing that matters more than anything else you may or may not have considered when it comes to coming out: your safety.
Please do not come out to anyone at home if you feel that it could cause more physical, mental, or emotional harm to you in some way, or if you believe there is any chance that it would be so ill-received that it could cause you to be kicked out of your home. Wait until it is safe for you to come out. While you may be experiencing some degree of discomfort or despair by not being able to live authentic, you do not need to exacerbate the situation by adding more stressors on top of what you are already going through. Your safety and well-being are paramount. And though you may not feel as though you are any safer or any better off living with people who would not accept the authentic you, it is not worth the risk of finding yourself driven to the point of homelessness where your safety would be at even greater risk.
Please know that, with or without anyone's approval, you are still you and you are still valid. But until you are an adult, your parents are legally responsible for decisions that affect your safety. And like it or not, they call the shots. Some parents are supportive and will help you navigate to where you need to be. Others will not be supportive at all and may even insist on deadnaming and misgendering you. Some may even take it further by ridiculing you or invalidating you in front of others. While this can hurt immensely, please do not give it the power to destroy you. You cannot force them to accept you. And as unfortunate as this may be, it may be the same with others in your life, as well.
The most important thing to remember is that, while the acceptance of others feels good and boosts confidence, it does not define who you are. One day, you will be able to remove yourself from toxic situations and away from toxic people. And you will learn as you progress through adulthood that those who do not support you will become less relevant to you and to your journey, and that you don't need their acceptance in order to feel whole or valid. No matter what, you have the love and acceptance of thousands, if not millions of people just like you in this world. And all of them are right here waiting to show you the love, support, and guidance you will need to be the best version of yourself.
For now, if you feel that you need to come out to someone, pick the one person that you trust the most and who you are sure will accept and support you and start with them. And if that person is a parent or sibling, then even better.
Founded in 1998 by the creators of the Academy Award®-winning short film TREVOR, The Trevor Project is the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer & questioning (LGBTQ) young people under 25.
Planning can help make the difficult decision of coming out a little easier. Many young people have come out successfully through well-planned efforts. We have information on coming out to parents, at school, and to friends.
The Trans Youth Equality Foundation provides education, advocacy and support for transgender and gender non-conforming children and youth and their families. Our mission is to share information about the unique needs of this community, partnering with families, educators and service providers to help foster a healthy, caring, and safe environment for all transgender children.
TransFamily Support Services guides transgender/non-binary youth and their families through the gender transitioning process to help make it the most positive experience possible. We provide family coaching, assistance with healthcare and insurance issues, help navigating the legal system, and support at schools All services are provided at no fee.
TransParent envisions a world that honors and affirms the naturally occurring transgender experience. Our mission is to bring compassionate support to parents and caregivers navigating complex issues faced by gender independent individuals.
Gender Spectrum hosts free online groups for pre-teens, teens, parents, caregivers, and other family members and adults. These groups provide you with the opportunity to connect with others, share experiences, and feel the comfort of a supportive community.
The PFLAG Chapter Network--with over 400 chapters across the country--provides confidential peer support, education, and advocacy to LGBTQ+ people, their parents and families, and allies. PFLAG chapters are in communities in all 50 states, the District of Columbia, and Puerto Rico. With 200,000+ members and supporters crossing multiple generations of families in major urban centers, small cities, and rural areas, PFLAG has been saving lives, strengthening families, and changing hearts, minds and laws since 1972.
GSA clubs build power for a growing movement of LGBTQ+ youth of color and we actively support youth through training in leadership, organizing, and advocacy for racial and gender justice. We empower trans and queer youth to educate your schools and communities, organize in coalition with other youth across identity lines, and advocate for just policies that protect all LGBTQ+ youth from harassment and violence. Together, you learn to tackle the issues that impact you in school, build collective power, and ultimately transform educational institutions. Youth-led and youth-planned trainings and events are offered throughout the year.
Founded in 2015, gc2b is a trans-owned company based in Maryland. gc2b's founder, CEO, and designer, Marli Washington saw that the only binding options were uncomfortable and inadequate compression shirts designed for cis men. As a University of the Arts Industrial Design graduate, he used his experience in product design and his back ground in textiles to provide accessible, comfortable, and safe binding options designed by trans people, for trans people. gc2b binders were the first garments designed and patented specifically for gender-affirming chest binding.
Point of Pride works to benefit trans people in need through gender-affirming support programs that empower them to live more authentically. Point of Pride offers an Annual Transgender Surgery Fund, a Free Chest Binder Donation Program, a Free Trans Femme Shapewear Program, an Electrolysis Financial Support Program, an HRT Access Fund, and other community-building support initiatives for trans youth and adults. We also advocate for health care reform and the national adoption of inclusive health care policies that protect and serve our community.
Transgender Law Center has worked with many trans youth and families to advocate for young people’s opportunity to live safe and affirming lives and to have a safe place to learn. We provide information to support in navigating the challenges that can arise for transgender and gender nonconforming youth, including making sure schools and health care settings are respecting a student’s gender identity or gender expression, filing for a legal name and/or gender change, and accessing medical care like puberty blockers or hormones.
TRANSETCETERA IS NOW "THE CARLISLE INITIATIVE!"
1. We are currently in the process of rebranding our organization's web site and socials. In the interim, you may still see references to TransEtcetera, including email addresses and other contact options until the rebranding is complete.
2. The Carlisle Initiative is moving away from the widely-known LGBTQIA+ acronym in favor of the shorter and more inclusive GSE acronym, which stands for Gender & Sexually Expansive. Now, when you see this in our spaces, you will know what it means.